Have You Ever Been Bit By An Elephant?

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I was recently talking to a mentor of mine while sitting in my car, when all of a sudden my greatest enemy came flying through the window threatening to take my life, forcing me to run out of the car. My mentor heard me and began to chuckle and said ” as big as you are your allergic to that small thing?” that small thing was a bee. Okay, maybe I exaggerated but the reality is that small bee has the potential to kill me.

I am highly allergic to bees. Getting stung will cause my throat to swell closing my airway making it difficult to breath. Yes, I try to avoid them. I would love to live a long life and I also want to save my money instead of giving it away to medical bills.

Isn’t it interesting how small things can destroy big people?

What about you? Do you have a “small enemy” that is a huge threat in your life?

Maybe it’s an allergic reaction to bees or maybe it’s not. Maybe it’s different for you. Maybe that “small thing” for you is that you have a bad habit of lying and it’s costing you opportunities. What about gossiping costing people to trust you, damaging your relationships. Perhaps it’s spending too much money causing financial strains in your life or in your marriage. It may be a “small thing” yet every time it “stings you” it affects you in dangerous ways.

The wisest man that ever lived said, “it’s the little foxes that spoil the vine”. Every one has the threat of a small fox ruining our great vineyard or in our case -life.

Let me ask you a question, have you ever been bit by an elephant? Hopefully not, but have you ever been bitten by a mosquito? 
Isn’t it interesting how it’s the small things in life that can hurt us the most. For a CEO and leader it could be the lack of communication with the team, yet for a father it could be the lack of discipline to show his wife and children love, when he gets home in the evening. If you are a student, it’s probably the lack of interest to give your studies one hundred percent.

I don’t know what it maybe for you. But, I assure you; you need to identify what the threat is in order to protect yourself against it.

I carry around an Epi-pen (which is a needle with medicine) to help me while I get to the hospital in case a bee stings me. Doing this could save my life.

What is your “small threat?” how are you protecting yourself from it?

You cannot protect yourself against what you do not admit.

 

So, how can you guard yourself?

1. Assess yourself

Only you know, you.  You know what you can do and where you can’t go. You know what triggers the worst of who you are and what brings out the best of who you are. You know what is your kryptonite. Overeating? Pride? Jealousy?

2. Admit it

Come to terms with it and realize it’s danger. Understand that if you don’t guard against “it”, “it” will destroy you.

3. Fight it.

Don’t let that small thing beat you. Swap at it, avoid it, carry an Epi-pen with you everywhere you go if you have too, but don’t let it destroy you.

You are more than an over comer, but we must be aware of what we must overcome!

 I would love to hear your feedback comment below.

Communicate Quickly Or Get Hit By A Rock.

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I heard a story of a grandmother who was sitting on her porch in a hot summer day with one of her daughters. As they sat there watching and talking about her two year old grandson who was playing in the front yard under they’re supervision, smiling and bragging about how cute he was. She noticed the sweet, handsome little boy pick up a rock and said “grandma are you ready?” as he got ready to throw it at her. Immediately she understood that she needed to communicate with her grandson in a way he could understand. She needed to articulate that what he was able to do was not acceptable.

Communication is powerful. Communication or the lack thereof can either break or make your life. When done correctly communication has the ability to cancel a war and bring peace into a nation. It has the power to build a deep connection for two people who are in love. Communication can bind friendships for a lifetime or the lack of it can break one up.

I am huge on communication. I am not saying I do it perfectly or consistently, but I do have a huge interest on this subject and constantly studying the benefits of it.

Part of the reason I love communication is because of how I have been impacted by words. I have been encouraged and inspired to thrive and press on in life even through disadvantages. All by someone who knew how to communicate what I needed to hear in those moments. I have also been scared by words from people who knew not the value of communication. As I look back into my life I also see how much I dislike when people don’t communicate effectively, you probably don’t either.

If you are a leader, a parent, a boss or in a relationship, communication is the key you need to unlock some closed doors in your life to live in unity and create bigger impact.

I know this is a huge topic but let’s look at 5 effects on great communication in a team, organization, business, job or in a relationship that you might need.

I think great communication establishes

1. Unity in your team.

If you want unity, start communicating with the people who are in your team. These people are for you and are running the race of life with you, why not speak and share what’s happening within the organization. Jesus said, “ Every city or house divided against itself will not stand.” Your team, your organization and your relationships will not stand if you don’t communicate. I believe many problems can be avoided if we learned the art of communication.

2. Gives a sense of belonging.

People want to belong. God made each of us to need all of us. We all have unique abilities and talents that each of us need. Some people bring financial skills to the table others bring different gifts, but we all can bring something and benefit from all things. Don’t discredit or overlook someone you “think” you don’t need, just because they don’t necessarily have what you’re looking for. If you want to win in your marriage, you need your spouse. If you want to make progress in your organization or business ask people in your team for help, and input by communicating with them consistently and constantly giving them updates on the progress of each task. After all they are working with you.

3. Removes assumptions or confusion.

I have seen people hurt and confused time and time again including myself because of a lack of communication by the leader of a company or organization. Most of the time is not what was said, but what wasn’t said that caused the confusion and resentment. If you respect the people who are working with you at all, you owe it to them to share what’s happening in your organization or team. As leaders we have the power and control to minimize assumptions and confusions within our team, simply by communicating.

4. Keeps the team engaged in the vision.

If your vision is big enough you will require more than yourself to accomplish it. Therefore you need to effectively communicate with your team. The reality is when you communicate your showing your team that you truly care for them as individuals. You demonstrate that they are valuable to the organization and that they’re input matters. Trust me, if people feel that you don’t care about them, pretty soon they won’t care about you.

5. Respect the organization or leader.

If I am building with you, and you are my leader I deserve for you to communicate effectively with me. Your team or spouse is following you because they simply want to. Some people follow you because they have to, but remember, if you don’t wake up and start showing your team that you care for them it will be a matter of time before they lose respect for you, and no one in their right mind wants people on their team who don’t respect them.

Now, I know all this sounds like a lot of work, guess what? it is. But if you communicate with your team you will win and keep valuable loyal people on your team and on your side. If you want to work alone and accomplish very little, don’t communicate with your team. Just remember this; it will be a matter of time before they leave.

As leaders we can become so involved in our organizations and admire the beauty of what’s taking place, like the grandma with her grandson. But sooner than later you need to learn to communicate with your team or else you will get hit with a rock that will bring you into reality, then it will be too late.

 

This is my list. What about you? Why do you think it’s important to communicate? How do you do it? I would love to hear from you comment below.

Is God Picking On Me?

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Have you ever felt like God was picking on you?

Throughout the course of life as you go through many transitions and interrupted dreams, and interrupted goals due to life challenges, sometimes life will make you believe that God is playing games with you.

That some how the Almighty God is against you. It seems that God is holding out on His blessings.

But in reality it is the total opposite. God is for you.

God is not against you, trying to stop you from achieving the goals and dreams He Himself placed inside of your heart. God wants you to fulfill your dreams, for each fruit your life produces is to bring Him glory.

Why then has it been so hard for you to achieve them? Why so many obstacles along the way?

The reason is so hard for you to achieve your goals or a dream is because He has a better plan. Maybe for you it’s to repair your marriage or to get the job you’ve worked so hard for. Perhaps is to be in the career you desire or to live in a particular country or city.

God who created you and knows you deeply, the God who loves you and who has been with you even through your darkest days is more interested in who you are becoming rather what you are getting.

Who we become is more important to God than what we can get.

What then is God trying to make me become? Because sometimes during difficult seasons in life, we get tempted to become bitter rather than better. Tempted to be hateful rather than being lovable.

So what is God doing by “denying” you of your dreams? Allowing you to “grow” frustrated? God is building your character. God wants you to fight the urge to give up, the urge to become bitter, and the urge to dismiss love. He wants you to be content in who He is in your life!

Rich or poor, He is still God. Whether you’re single or married He is still God. Whether you’re in a prosperous relationship or just went through a bad breakup, He is still God. He wants you to be content because of who He is.

This is certainly not easy and it is a process we must go through every single day.

In spite of all of this He wants you to know Him as the God who shows up not when you want but He shows up right on time.

He wants to be your deliverer but in order for God to be your deliverer you have had to be bound.

He wants to be your healer, but you have had to been broken.

He wants to be your provider but you have had to been in lack.

He wants to give you hope, but you have had to been hopeless.

He wants to be the lifter of your head but you have had to been downcast.

The God of the universe is for you! Everything else is a lie. God is not against you, or angry with you, or trying to bully you, all those are lies from your enemy.

If you are on Gods team trust the fact that He is for you and working a masterpiece in your life. He wants you to run to win the race of life.

You may not always understand it, neither do I, but I believe one day we will. But until then keep your head up and commit your ways to Him and He will give you the desires of your heart.

He will fulfill his purpose in your life.

Declare this day that regardless of what happens -God is for me!

3 Reasons Why You Are Being Stretched.

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Have you ever felt stretched? You know, the kind of stretching that makes you feel like your going to break?

The kind of stretching that makes you say “ If someone else ask for one more thing, I’ll…” Ever been there?

Maybe you are working two jobs trying to make it financially, and yet your daydreaming about a day you can live life fulfilling your calling while making a living.

Perhaps you are a father taking care of your family and feel pulled all types of directions.

Well, I to have felt this way in different seasons of my life. Most recently, I felt like I was being stretched beyond what I could bear. During an unexpected move, frustrated telling myself “this is getting old”. Yet while I was taking a shower one morning, I heard God speak to my heart.

Here is what He said, “I am stretching you, I want to see if you’re flexible enough so that I may take you to the next level”. It sounds cool, but I assure you being stretched hurts, because sometimes it seems like nothing is really happening. Sometimes it’s hard to see what God is really doing in your life and how He will put every piece together to make something awesome.

Maybe you are experiencing something unexpected in your life, I want to reassure you that God is getting you ready for what is to come.

God is not done with you. He is writing a story in your life. This awesome story fits into what He is doing in this generation. You were created by Him and for Him, and He has a purpose for your life. During this time of yet another transition, I remind myself of how God has helped me before. Which gives us a key to future promotions. Always look back at how He has helped you.

 

If He did it before, He could do it again.

 

I am reminded that during other detours in my life, God has always brought me through. I can go on and on, and brag about His goodness and mercy. The stretching has done a couple great things in me that I believe will do for you.

 1. It broke me

We ask in our prayers we want to be more like Jesus and less like ourselves. Yet, we must understand that in order for this to happen, He must break us.

 We love the idea of living for Christ, yet hate the idea of dying to self.

But doing all God has for us in this life, requires that we surrender to Him and allow Him to break us.

Why? What I love about God is that He doesn’t break you for the sake of breaking you. He breaks you to remake you into a more powerful, dynamic, loving person. The best version of you.

2. It Propels me

This stretching also propels you to the next level. After He stretches you, you will never be the same again. You will never think, or talk like you use to.

You are on your way to another level.

As He is launching you back, I encourage you to hold on to Him, because He’s about to launch you to a different place of purpose and of destiny!

3. It Grows me

Every season is exactly that, a season and I believe it is God’s ultimate plan to grow you in every season. If you are breathing He is not done in your life.

 Rather than fight your way in life, trust your way through life.

Place your confidence in Him who loves you and wants you to succeed in everything you do. Everything God allows in your life, will work out for your good and for His ultimate purpose.

You will shine like never before, and once you get into the new level, look back, give God glory and get ready to be launched again. Remember nothing He does in your life is wasted and that my friend, is the confidence that keeps me moving.

He’s got you right where He wants you. Lean back and get ready to fly.

How is God stretching you? Are you flexible for what He is about to do in your life?

1 Thing Your Haters Don’t Get

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Do you have “haters”?

Unfortunately, no matter how much we try to love and please people and be friends with everyone within our reach, some people insist to dislike you, and some even try to stop you from reaching your dreams.

The reason haters hate on your dreams is because they feel they don’t have a chance on their own dreams. So when someone comes along to accomplish something great, it reminds them how little they are doing. So having some “haters” in life can actually be a good thing. It could mean that you are doing something so significant and life changing for which the enemy wants to stop.

In your quest to do all that God created you to do, you will encounter haters along the way. After all the haters are indicators that you are living a different kind of life.

Notice I said in the first sentence ‘try’ because in reality they can’t stop you. They can slow you down, distract you for a while but I am a firm believer that when you are laser focus on the things that God created you to do, and determine in your heart to fulfill them nothing, absolutely nothing can stop you from achieving them.

Here is the 1 thing the haters who are trying to stop, distract, distort, discourage or confuse you don’t get.

They Don’t get the fact that with or without their approval or support,  you -will make it!

Here is a few quick examples:

Nehemiah the great man who built Jerusalem’s walls to protect the city, had haters and we know their names, (I would hate to be remembered as a hater)

  • Nehemiah fought the urge to get on his haters level.
  • He defended what God had placed in his heart.
  • Nehemiah brought the vision of these walls from his head into reality.

Here is what his haters helped Nehemiah do; they expedited the whole building process! See, His haters didn’t know that while they were getting in the way, they were really pushing Nehemiah and his men to stay focus and build with great diligence and allowed them to build these walls in record time!

Joseph was another young man who had haters because of his dreams. This time his haters were people he loved. His haters were his own brothers. Yet, he was faithful and kept his integrity even when his haters wanted to break him. Here is what happens to his haters.

They ended up broken and ended up seeing the dream they themselves tried to stop.

I will share my stories on haters in my life on the next one. But remember this, God will always be faithful regardless of peoples thoughts about you, just do what He says to do. As long as you have your Creator’s approval and favor you have all you need to build a life of impact.

Remember, haters gonna hate. 

Comment and share your stories on how God showed up in your life regardless of your haters.

3 Reasons Your Enemy Wants You Discouraged.

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As a spiritual leader I must tell you, you have an enemy. Your enemy is not one you can necessary see physically. You have an enemy called Satan. I know this post doesn’t sound too positive, but before you click away let me help you understand why he attacks you so much on a day-to-day basis. His aim and focus is to discourage you, especially if you are a leader in any capacity (mother, father, manager, CEO or pastor). If you have tried doing anything of significance I know you have been discouraged.

Here are 3 reasons why your enemy wants to discourage you.

1.You will lose your focus.

In my life whenever I’m undertaking a project or assignment that I believe God placed in my heart, I often find myself getting discouraged when great opposition rises up. As soon as I am discouraged I find myself doubting if this task was from God in the first place. Soon, I’m having a pity party about how things aren’t fair and how things should be easier.

See, what takes place is I’m losing focus. I am forgetting the reason why I started in the first place. I begin to forget who called me. That He who called me is faithful to fulfill his promise in my life. It is the enemy’s aim for me to lose my focus and my direction. Because if I lose my focus I will lose my progress, which is point, number two.

2.Lose your progress.

God has equipped you with unique talents and abilities to use to fulfill your purpose in this generation. Every experience in your life, God wants to used it to bless other people, yet when you get hit with discouragement you get paralyzed from progress because you become so self conscious that you lose your touch with God and His plan for your life. You begin to dwell on your situation that you pause and sometimes stop your progress, which is your enemy’s great strategy. He doesn’t want you and I to progress and improve in life. He desires that you and I remain so self focused that we begin to self-serve.

This means when you lose your focus of your call and you stop your progress because your focus is on your situation you now only care about where you are and how you feel. It all becomes about you and no one else. Yet, God wants to use your life to be a blessing to others. “If you give your life” Jesus said, “you will find it”, but if you hold on to your life you will lose it. Which brings us to our third and final point.

3. Your purpose. 

If the enemy of your soul can get you to lose your focus, you will ultimately lose your progress and when you lose progress you lose your purpose. You were created to live a life on purpose and for purpose. This is why you’re constantly being attacked mentally with discouragement. Your enemy wants you to live life and miss your God ordained purpose!

We all deal with discouragement whether that is at home, in our marriage or relationships, our finances, or in your job. Whatever it is fight discouragement. It’s a tenacious fight but don’t give in. Don’t give in to the enemy’s tactics to rob you of your greatest blessings in life!

I want to remind you, that you are a champion so begin to act like one. Champions get hit yes, but champions bounce back! Next time discouragement comes knocking at your hearts door, answer it with God’s word. Refuse to be beat. Think on your prior victories and get ready for the next one.

Why do you think the enemy wants you discouraged? How does it affect you? What causes you to be discouraged?